Sacred Love Relationship

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Sacred Love Relationship

There is a prodigious difference between true sacred intimate love and a domesticated love relationship with attachment and bondage. In true profound love, there is no attempt to control or manipulate another individual, no entanglement between the lover and beloved one. It is a sacred relationship dedicated to support each other’s growth on all levels and evolution on the spiritual path. We want only the very best and highest for the beloved. We do not harbor destructive, negative feelings. In true sacred love, we are able to let go, uniting on a very profound spiritual level. This love can transcend to Divine love, a sacred relationship.

In a sacred loving relationship, genuine love stems from a very deep spiritual, mystical and energetic connection. It is one of the most intimate and beautiful connections because the intimacy being created and experienced is far beyond the physical realm. It also touches all aspects of our beings: physical, emotional, mental, psychological, existential, spiritual and energetic levels. This profound love is not based on any conditions. The sacred loving relationship crosses all societal boundaries such as age, religious and spiritual traditions, socio-economic backgrounds and creeds. This profound love is Divine and mystical because it is born from our true state of being and longing for the ultimate truth.

For most couples their intimate love relationship is contractual and focuses more on the physical and on a “take away.” If you do something for me, I will give something back to you…and keep on loving you, always based on conscious or unconscious conditions. It is subtle. Yes, we all have some needs to fulfill in intimate relationship. Yet a sacred loving relationship will naturally and organically attend to these needs, though it is not a requirement. Sacred love relationships lie within the inner power of the dynamic between the lover and the beloved, allowing each to abandon themselves completely in the loving, surrendering spiritual process of their relationship and be transcended in all. The connection is so very powerful, profound, mystical and supreme it is as if their hearts beat as ONE. Their love will pervade no matter what and will overcome all obstacles, from passion to compassion ….from compassion to ultimate passion.

When two individuals, who are sincere seekers on the spiritual path, form and embark on a sacred loving relationship, detachment can be one its most precious qualities. In detachment there is total abandonment and surrender of self, interdependence, and devotion toward one another. There is no grasping, jealousy, lust, insecurity, or envy ..….only a grand sense of freedom to express the most beautiful and precious passionate and blissful expression of deep expanded love by embracing the beloved as well as all living beings and life. Detachment does not remove or create a distance or separation between the loving couple. To the contrary, detachment allows a greater depth of freedom, trust, intimacy, expansion of consciousness, inclusiveness, awareness, acceptance, interdependence, growth, evolution and intensity between them. There is nothing greater than a sacred loving relationship when one is longing to be in a loving intimate relationship.…another powerful gateway to the Divine, to the Creator…. to liberation. A sacred loving relationship is all about self-actualization, self-realization and liberation for the sake of well-being and happiness for all living beings.

Please share your thoughts and feelings…..Very much looking forward to read your comments.

Infinite divine love, grace and blessings, Vivi Devi (Vivianne Nantel)

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Codependency versus interdependency in love relationship



Codependency versus interdependency in love relationship

When we talk about love, it is inevitable the subject of codependency and interdependency arise. This relatively new term, codependency, was coined a few decades ago. Since this topic is vast and I am not a professional psychologist, I will share only what seems pertinent for the sake of awareness.
The learned compulsive behavior called codependency is one of the gravest malaises of our century. Codependency makes it harder for people to unleash their true nature, causing great suffering and pain. It has surely been around forever, but we were unable to identify it.
When I was a young girl, I thought humankind failed to look inward for their spiritual power. I wondered why most progress was manifested outward in the world in such areas as spacecraft, computers and automobiles. I used to imagine how it would be to discover the power within, these ancient frontiers of exploration to other dimensions. I did not know how, but finding the pathway fascinated me.
Through research and observation, I discovered there are many definitions of codependency, but all of them come down to one thing…an addictive relationship that develops from learned behaviors and conditioned responses, causing the individual to hold dysfunctional boundaries. The idea of codependency was first used to explain responses from those who lived with an alcohol or drug abuser. However, over time this notion expanded to embrace all unhealthy, dysfunctional relationships. Today it includes anyone who has learned and acquired maladaptive behaviors to survive great emotional pain. These circumstances can arise from being subjected, within the family or social group, to drug dependency, chronic mental or physical illness, physical and emotional abuse, divorce, suicide, sexual abuse and rape, violence or toxic environment. It is the byproduct of the conditioned response to survive traumatic stress.
Codependency is also widely used to describe people with similar patterns in their romantic or other personal relationships. Today codependency describes a dysfunctional pattern of behaving, coping, surviving, and problem solving which develops when the family or society of origin has used rigid and unhealthy rules and actions to influence behavior.
According to the country’s oldest and largest nonprofit organization addressing aspects of mental health and mental illness, Mental Health America says, “Codependency is a learned behavior that can be passed down from one generation to another. It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual’s ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as “relationship addiction” because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive. The disorder was first identified about ten years ago as the result of years of studying interpersonal relationships in families of alcoholics. Codependent behavior is learned by watching and imitating other family members who display this type of behavior.”
This emotional and behavioral condition can affect anyone, a parent, friend, sibling, lover, spouse, or child who has been emotionally or physically abused and neglected during childhood and adolescence. Codependency can be hard to detect, especially in oneself. Some relationships can stir codependency in an individual if one is not completely healed from the ghosts of the past.
Being codependent does not mean individuals don’t love one another. Contrarily, they may love each other deeply, but don’t know how to behave and interact in a healthy way. One or both of the individual may unconsciously sabotage the relationship so it becomes complex, draining, and painful as the participants watch it deteriorate before their eyes. Codependence leads you to deal in unhealthy ways with others, become too dependent at all levels, obsess and live through your significant others.
A person who suffers from codependency tends to become involved in toxic and painful relationships, enabling the individual to reenact their learned role and familiar dysfunctional behaviors in the new relationship. A codependent person may assume an overly passive or excessively care-taking manner, which also affects the relationship negatively. In many cases, codependency can lead to ending the relationship, to divorce, to severe depression and even suicide. It does not have to be that way. Both individuals can heal, grow, and blossom together.

I look very much forward to hearing your comments and sharing. Please share this post with all your friends on social media. This short article is part 1 of a series of two blogs. Next week I will post the second part focusing more on the spiritual aspect.

Sending you a garden of Divine love, grace and blessings, Vivi
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